We’re closing in on the end of the first month of the new year. How’s it going for ya? I think it probably goes pretty well — you’re still here, you’re still able to read this and “kibitz.” That’s a yiddish term for those who look on and offer unwelcome advice — especially about other people’s activities or words. I’ve been places and done things that brought a lot of kibitzers my way. In fact, it’s possible others may have thought of me in that manner.
Having been soundly criticized once because of my kibitz, I was forced to take stock of myself and consider a change in my personality. I may not have become a better man, but I did become a more discretionary kibitzer, especially to he who railed at me about it. When in a group conversation and a friend of mine brought up an ailment in his body (for about the umpt-i-third time, and knowing I had a legitimate suggestion for its cure, I spoke out at him telling him what he should do. It didn’t set well with him; he began with raised voice saying that “everybody is tired of you always thinking you have the answer!” “ Why don’t you just keep your mouth shut!” “Don’t you notice nobody pays any attention to you anymore?” I studied that rant for a few seconds, then as I walked away from the group, I replied to him, “No, I had not noticed that.” Then, got in my car and drove away.
For several days after that, I, with the rest of the group, still met for coffee and the friend I had offended didn’t come in for several days. When he did come back, we all greeted him, and pulled up another chair for him and we went on as usual. But, I wasn’t as usual. Hopefully, I learned something about myself. I don’t know if my friend learned anything and would not ever ask. To this day, I’m better though, I think, …better, …kibitzer that I am.
This reminds me of a story (written in this blog a few years back) of an elderly man in my home town as I was growing up, body bent with his age and ailments and who couldn’t walk too well, but he most days was in the Pool Hall where old men and some others played Euchre at the back. I always enjoyed being there when he was. He was a really good and fast Euchre player—had him once as a partner. He told me quickly every time I did a wrong thing.
This man was well liked by almost everyone. But, once he was sitting watching two young men play a pool game, 8-ball, it was. The one young man was studying his shot, and the old friend yelled out, “perfect bank!” The young man glanced at him and he repeated, “perfect bank shot!” The young whippersnapper pointed to the old friend with his cue stick and said, “You think you could bank this in, why don’t you either shut up or get up here and prove it!” The old friend squirmed around and with a little help, got to his feet; took the cue stick from him and said one bank, this side,” and made the shot. Then looked at the 8-ball, shuffled around to the side of the table and side, “two bank, this corner,” tapping the table with his stick. Then, shooting it perfectly, handed the stick to the young fella and said, “perfect bank” and shuffled back to his seat.
It was the kind of moment when you knew it was perfect one-upmanship. Nothing more needed said, and for sure we all just admired it happening in our presence, the young men paying to play the game, obviously agreeing.
When I wrote about this a few years back, my old friend’s granddaughter, a few years younger than me, wrote me about understanding that her grandfather was kindly remembered: Mr. Hugh Brock, the more perfect kibitzer.
That was not what I wished this writing to be about, just couldn’t make the memory go away. But, enough of it. I wanted to fill in some calendar events to make the year worthwhile. As of this writing I know of 6 Grace Bible conferences this year. Beginning in February:
1.) The Gatlinburg Retreat will be Feb.27 to Mar.1 (yes you can still get a reservation.)
2.) Then April 17-19, at Berean Bible Fellowship, Arab, AL.
3.) In May, the 8th-10th Austin Bible Fellowship is holding a conference in Round Rock, TX.
4.) Grace Bible Church of Chattanooga will have their conference either the last week in Sept. or the first in Oct.
5.) Grace Bible conference in Pensacola will probably be the last weekend of Oct. or the first in Nov.
6.) The Corpus Christi group I believe are planning on their 2nd Conference in early Dec.
There will possibly be one or two more from groups close by and with whom I enjoy fellowship, but I haven’t heard a for sure yet. Each of these conferences will have from 6 to 10 speakers who stand upon the perfect word of God, the King James Bible, preach from their heart as they see what the Lord says, and neither demand anything nor expect anything except the attention of the audience for their service to the Lord.
When the Lord impressed upon these men to become teachers/preachers, they were never told they could expect wealth nor popularity, rather they were led by the desire to “make all men see what is the fellowship of the mystery” by preaching the gospel of Christ, which is the “power of God unto salvation.”
If the Lord does not shorten the days by “descending from heaven with a shout…” and my health holds up as it is now, my intention is to be at each of these conferences. May the Lord bless you in your year, and remember to pray for all who will be involved in these gatherings.
Thanks for reading, the Elder